Beauty Is Within

Never get tired of posting my Little Mermaid's photos. Self satisfaction.

Get ready for the Prom-nite MJC 2006

Shu Umera makeup artist, Ms Wai Wai











Dress for the prom.













After the make over.











Shunji Matsuo's hair dresser director.











Sasa manicure.








Guess? clutch bag

Puteri Gunung Ledang Muzikal

That is Adlin Aman Ramlie as Sultan Mahmud of Malacca in Puteri Gunung Ledang Muzikal.
Managed to catch the theatre show at Esplanade 26th November 2006. This is my very first theatre show in my entire life and surprising.....this was indeed a magnificent production and am awed by the whole magical experience! Kudos to all the personnels involved in such a fantastic production. Too bad, managed to catch
a photo with 'Malacca Sultan'. I can understand the casts need to rest so, we were ushered away too fast. Hahaha i did admit that i accidentally dozed off during Gusti Putri Retno Adjeng Dumilah and Hang Tuah sang at the waterfall....i dont know, maybe too tired after attending two weddings on that day. Anyway...i enjoyed the show. Will watch it again for second round if it is shown again here. Bravooooo!!!!

No Place To Hide

By: Dr James Dobson
Have you ever fantasised about running away from all the pressure and stress of today's high-tech world? Surely there's a place somewhere on the globe where the pace is slower and the living is easy.Why don't we just pack up and transplant ourselves there - lock, stock, and family dog? That was precisely the dream that motivated a man and woman back in 1940 to move to an island in the Coral Sea called Guadalcanal. But two years later, they had World War II in their front yard, and that wasn't exactly what they had in mind. Well, they just chose the wrong place. How about moving to a small island in the Caribbean, south of Cuba, called Grand Cayman? Vacationers to this resort say that it's the closest thing to paradise on earth. The 6,000 residents pay no taxes. The water around them is calm and warm, and there are orchids growing everywhere.Sounds good, doesn't it? But hand on for a minute. Recent medical studies revealed that the two major ailments suffered by the citizens of Grand Cayman are hypertension and anxiety neuroses. Life on a tropical beach can be tough, it appears.Could it be that the stresses and pressures with which we struggle actually come from within, and that they will plague us no matter where we live until we learn to deal with circumstances as they are? We might as well stay and bloom where we're planted, because there's simply no place to hide.

My photos gallery

With celebrities

Hahahaha just wanna show off...............who cares?!!!!







Lim Swee Tin, a well known poet in Malaysia.









Mr Yusnor Ef, is a well known personality amongst the Malay community










S M Salim, singer and master of malay traditional song.










Jorah Ahmad, all time favourite actress.










Singer/actress Uji Rashid and her actor son Cico.









Republic of Singapore First Lady, Mrs S R Nathan

Is Motherhood Boring?

By: Dr James Dobson

When I hear someone comment that being a mother and homemaker is boring, I have a simple response: You're right!

The truth is, almost any occupation you can name - from a telephone operator to a medical pathologist, an attorney or dentist - involves a long hours of tedious activity.

Few of us enjoy heart-thumping excitement each moment of our professional lives. I once stayed in a hotel room right next to the room of a famous cellist that was performing in a classical concert that evening. I could hear him through the walls as he practised hour after hour. He didn't play beautiful symphonic renditions; he repeated scales, runs and exercises, over and over and over. Believe me! This practice began early in the morning and continued until the time of his concert. As he strolled onto the stage that night, I'm sure many in the audience thought to themselves, "What a glamorous life!" Some glamour! I happen to know he spent the entire day in his lonely hotel room in the company of his cello.

No, I doubt that the job of being a mother and homemaker is more boring than most other jobs, particularly if a woman refuses to be isolated from adult contact. But regarding the importance of the assignment, no job can compete with the satisfaction of shaping and moulding, and guiding a new human being.

Tim and Christine Burke

By: Dr James Dobson

What would you be willing to give up for your family?

Your hopes, your dreams, your career, your bank account?

Well, I know a man who gave up all of that and more.

In 1985, Tim Burke saw his boyhood baseball dream come true the day he signed on to pitch for the Montreal Expos. After four years in the minors, he was finally going to get a chance to play in the big leagues. And he quickly proved to be worth his salt, setting an all-time record for most relief appearances by a rookie player. But along the way, Tim and his wife, Christine, had adopted four children with very special needs - two daughters from South Korea, a handicapped son from Guatemala, and another son from Vietnam. All the children were born with very serious illnesses or defects. Neither Tim nor Christine were prepared for the tremendous demands such a family would bring. And with gruelling schedule of major-league baseball, Tim was seldom around to help. So in 1993, only three months after signing a $600,000 contract with the Cincinnati Reds, he decided to retire. When pressed by reporters to explain this unbelievable decision, he simply said, "Baseball is going to to do just fine without me. But I'm the only father my children have."

Heroes are in short supply these days, but I'm happy to say that I've met one of them.

Families around the dinner table

@ HSBC Tree Top Bridge, Singapore

By: Dr James Dobson

Today, I want to share the findings of an interesting study that was conducted by Dr Blake Bowden of the Cincinnati Children's Hospital Center.

He and his colleagues studied 527 teenagers to learn what family and lifestyle characteristics were related to mental health and adjustment. What they found is that adolescents whose parents ate dinner with them five times per week or more were the least likely to be on drugs, to be depressed or to be in trouble with the law. They were more likely to be doing well in school and to be surrounded by a supportive circle of friends. And the benefit was seen even for families that didn't eat together at home. Those who met at fast-food restaurants had the same result. By contrast, the more poorly adjusted teens had parents who ate with them only three evenings per week or less. Now, what do these findings mean? Is there something magic about sitting down together over a meal? No. And those parents who believe that are in for a disappointment. What Bowden's study shows is that family relationships are critically important to the well-being of adolescents. When parents have time for their kids, when they get together almost every day for conversation and interaction - in this case, while eating - then their teens do much better at school and in life.

Study after study has emphasised the same message : Families are critically important to the well-being of children.

Baba's Bday

My beloved hubby's 52nd birthday...... again all times favourites Pulut Kuning...Yum yummmyyyy!!!!!!

Norzlan a.k.a. Ah Boy

This is the boy who used to write his name as : Norzlan Bin Awara. He is every mother's dream boy. Now, he is a father who will be proud to have his name appear in his junior's name : Harris Bin Norzlan

Oh Allah please guide him to be the best father a father can be and led a prosperous and healthy life with his loved ones. Amin

A Bunch of Lovely Kids

A Cure For Underachievement
By Dr James Dobson

One of the most troubling of all problems with children is underachievement in school, where a child refuses to use his or her potential. While there's no simple solution to this laid-back response, there are some approaches that may help.

It's true that some underachievement is linked to temperament, learning difficulties, or slow physical development. These are tough problems to resolve. In other cases, the difficulty could simply be a lack of incentive. We human beings are designed to respond to rewards - if there's no payoff for our efforts, we tend to become demoralised and lose interest. This is especially true of children. Underachievers often see no good reason to work and sweat over their books, and we have to give them one. A payoff doesn't have to be money or gifts. In fact, it's probably better if it isn't. A much more effective reward for motivating some children is social reinforcement - a fancy term for simple love and affirmation.

Children want to feel appreciated, and they want to hear compliments, especially if they're true. In fact, some kids will sustain any sort of grind, to hear a parent say, "I think you're the greatest." But when this sort of reinforcement is missing, an unmotivated young student may lack the drive to achieve his or her potential.

My Beloved Family

My Beloved Family!

Raffles Place MRT

11th November 2006, a day that bought smile and a sense of gratitude.

Lunch break from my Shiatsu massage course, I headed to Banquet for lunch but alone, as I prefer to be by myself during this hour. After burpp ....window shopping and ....oh! Charles & Keith! Walk in and out with a pair of shoe for my little mermaid. While in that shop, I strick-up a conversation with a customer lady when comtemplated to choose her pair colour.

Oh No! it is raining cats and dogs now! Have yet to conclude what action to be taken, a young lady asked me 'Kak, you want to go MRT?' I just nodded my head and she stretched out a long umbrella to me. She seemed to read my expression and said 'Never mind, I give you' and hurriedly walked off. Who ever she is, may she be well-liked by everybody and if you happened to read this, a big thank you for your umbrella.

In that split seconds, a man volunteered to show me the way to MRT without getting wet. He made sure that I got my way right that he rushed to me again when I decided to make a detour to the mosque. Whoever he is, I wish him all the best and may he too be well-liked by everybody and be a guidance to the lost.

Ever smiling

Raihanah's maths tutor Mr Gideon Oh, the ever smiling guy......

Birthday Yummy!

My Little Mermaid's birthday.....? what's that?

hahaha that's her favourite pulut kuning

This is my birthday cake....courtesy of my hubby and daughter.

Freshly baked from Mrs Field.

Slow and Sure

By Dr James Dobson.

Teaching Independence - Slow and Sure

How does a child learn to handle freedom and independecne? It takes a precise, calculated effort by his parents. Teaching your child to deal responsibly with independence and freedom is like letting him down from a high window with a rope. You do it little by little, slowly, deliberately, hand over hand. If you let the rope out all at once, he may plunge to the ground in a disastrous tumble.

I remember a test of my own independence when I was 17. My parents were going on a two-week trip and they left me behind with the family car and permission to have some school buddies over to stay at our house.

I behaved responsibly while my folk were gone, but I always wondered why my mother took that risk. When I asked her about it years later, she just smiled and said: "Because I knew in one year you would be leaving for university, where you would have complete freedom and no one watching over you. I wanted to expose you to that independence while you were still under my influence." My mother exemplified an important child-rearing principle. She prepared me for independence.

If you have children, let them test the waters of freedom as they're growing up, rather than thrusting them into total independence all at once. Then, when they're on their own and completely free, they'll know how to handle it responsibly and wisely.

Teaching failure to children

By: Dr James Dobson

One of the best ways to show your children how to succeed may just be to teach them how to fail.

It's not news to anyone that youngsters mimic the behaviour of their parents. And since parents are being watched, they obviously need to be careful about what their children see. This is especially true when it comes to handling failure and disappointment. Do we set ourselves up as models of perfection that never fall short of our goals? Or are we able to say to our kids: "I'm sorry - I really blew it this time."

If we miss out on something that we really wanted - say, a new job - do we mask our feelings by offering phony excuses, or do we simply say: "Apparently the bosses throught Mr. Lim would be better suited for the job."

Our children must see that Mum and Dad can admit their failure and their shortocmings, and that the world won't end because they did.

Some of the greatest times of growth between parents and children can occur when youngsters see Mum and Dad not get what they're going after, and still feel alright about themselves and each other. It tells them that winning isn't always normal or possible, and that even when you fail, life goes on. Teaching our kids to win and succeed is a noble thing. But teaching them to handle frustration and failure may be just as important.

Raihanah a.k.a. Little Mermaid

My Little Mermaid blooming ..........

I love what i am doing!

I am just doing what i think i like to do. I did not ask for credit or whatsoever from anybody. I just love doing it!! I did it without expecting to be acknowledged, as i take it as part of my work. So, why should i inform anybody of what i am doing in the class?

Why? why? why?

Today I am supposed to be on leave, but due to coming school's concert, and i as a 'runner' i felt that i have an obligation to perfom my duty which i had committed. Is that something wrong to do? Why must they felt that i am trying to 'sa ka'? I enjoyed what i am doing, am not trying to hurt anybody in any way or whatsoever. It is just me doing the job, not them! I just cant understand these people. To heck with them!!

National Day 2006

My first National Day Observance Ceremony since I left school....hahaha what a loyal citizen!

Moulana Mohamed Ali Mosque

As stated earlier, this is the mosque which I came across at Raffles Place's vicinity.

She is a lady....

How time flies....she is a lady now. May Allah shower her with all the love in this world and may happiness be her constant companion. Baba and Mummy will always love you

My Little Mermaid

My very first school.

Raihanah first school in Nursery till Kindergarten 2

Isn't she cute??

Eunos Primary

Eunos Primary, Eunos Primary, together we endeavour!

Cedar Girls'

Something to remember after making her identity card!!!

Meridian Junior College

My Little Mermaid in Meridian Junior College.

She's my girl!!

A Level

Today 2nd November 2006, my daughter's first paper for GCE 'A' Level General Paper.
Oh Allah, please help her to overcome any difficulties which she may face during the examination. As no other sources which is greater than you to grant my wishes. Amin!

No, No, No, YES!

By Dr James Dobson.

"No, you can't go out.
No, you can't have a cookie.
No, you can't use the telephone.
And no, you can't go to Susie's house!"
No, no, no, no.
How many times each day do we use that small, but powerful word with our children?
As parents we could say "yes" to most routine requests made by our kids. But we often choose, almost automatically, to respond in the negative.

Why?
1) Because we don't want to take the time to stop and think about the consequences;
2) because the activity could cause us more work or physical effort;
3) because there might be danger in the request; and
4) because we know our children ask a thousand favours every day and it's just
more convenient to refuse them all.

It's true that every child needs to be acquainted with denial of some of his more extravagant wishes, but we must not fall into the habit of turning down reasonable requests from our kids. There are just so many "no's" in life, that we should say "yes" whenever we can.

And it's good to ask ourselves every once in a while:
1) How do my children view me?
2) As an oppressive judge and jury?
3) As a demanding boss?
4) Or do they think of me as a loving parent, who is, above all else, fair and just in our daily
interaction?

One way to build a healthy relationship is to say "yes" unless there is a very good reason to do otherwise.

Tok Ayah's Bday

Hahaha i admit that i am meannnnn!!!!!! Sorry!!